Saturday 7 July 2012

SECRETS OF HAPPY MARRIAGE LIFE

SECRETS OF HAPPY MARRIAGE LIFE
Almost every marriage starts out as a large celebration. Together with their relatives & friends, each couple is filled with hopes & dreams for their future life together. But the road to a happy marriage is far from simple. & as today's divorce statistics demonstrate all well, plenty of couples opt not to complete the journey.

It would be simple to blame our high rate of marital failure on things like not spending quality time together, allowing bitterness & resentment to build in our hearts & failing to keep communication lines open. There is no finish to books, articles & seminars that tell you how to improve these & plenty of other aspects of your relationship. But while quality time, forgiveness & communication are vitally important to making a happy marriage, if such things aren't happening, it's usually a sign of a much deeper issue. & until this issue is addressed, no amount of outside behavior alteration will work.

To get a hint of what this deeper issue might be, let's take a glance at the following Scripture passage:

One of them, an professional in the law, tested him [Jesus] with this query: "Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?"
  Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with all of your heart and with all of your soul and with all of your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' All the Law and the Prophets hang on these commandments." (Matthew 22:35-40)


I think that virtually every marital issue can be traced back to or both partners failing to keep to these laws. The same is true of any relationship. The minute they start to focus on our own wishes and needs over those of God or our partner; we are destined for trouble.

As you start to do these things, you'll notice that your focus automatically starts to shift away from you and your desires and over to God and your partner. As a result, communication issues start to improve, anger and resentment fade away and you naturally need to spend more time together. Of work, you can't expect such changes to happen overnight. Your relationship is also bound to face financial pressures, childbearing issues and other issues that are beyond your control. But in the event you commit your relationship to God and make a conscious decision each day to put God and your partner first, your marriage will be able to weather any storm. Not only that; you'll also have lots of fun together along the way!

Experiencing communication issues in your marriage? How often do you focus on listening to what your partner (or God) has to say in lieu of insisting on more airtime? Feeling bitterness and resentment growing toward your partner? When was the last time you brought him or her before the Lord in prayer and truly thanked God for your relationship? Struggling to find quality time together? How about praying along with your partner and asking God how they would like you to make use of your time?

 Have you struggled to find happiness in your marriage? Perhaps it's time you & your partner invited God to direct your relationship. In case you would like to do so, they encourage you to pray the following:

"Dear God, thank you a lot for bringing us together as a couple. They know that you have a plan & a purpose for our marriage, & they invite you to forgive the past self-centeredness, come in to our lives & relationship & direct our steps from now on. give us the grace to put you & each other first every day. Make our relationship a blessing to others. But most of all; make it a blessing to you. Amen."
They would love to listen to from you. Whether you prayed this prayer or not they would gladly send you some great links with resources to help your marriage become stronger.

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